Actual state – trapped by your environment
The beginning. The pure form of self, the true core
Forming of character
Individual beliefs develop
Entrenchment of our beliefs
Experience bars progress
Decision to change from within
Step by step towards the self
Analysing and removing layer after layer
Self-awareness rises slowly
Taking over personal responsibility
Breaking through the last self-made barriers
During early childhood (years 0-3), we receive first imprints by our parents and their values. “This is what the world is like, this is how I am.”
(Ages may differ due to individual environment)
From age 3-14 our character is formed, based on the interactions between the values we took over and the life we live.
In the period between 14-27 we grow up, gradually detach from our parents and our personal concept for life takes shape. Basis is the interaction between our character and our environment. We now make decisions what appears to be right for us: children or carreer, marrying or staying single, hedonism or solid life.
From about the age of 27, our convictions turn into unshakeable belief systems.
We experience exactly what we believe, feel, and think, which all contributes to the feeling of being on solid ground. Beginning in the mid-thirties, we seek alterations – but only on the outside: new relationship, new job, new city. But we eventually find that the desired outcome, e.g. the feeling of satisfaction is still missing.
Our inner resistances and problems keep growing. Tensions between inner and outer world let us question our situation, our surroundings and our life. We ask ourselves whether it all makes sense, if life is meaningful. This is where we decide to turn around. This is exactly where change begins.
First off, we analyse our experiences and understand that they are subject to the way we judge situations. In other words, we live what we think. Changing the way we think and feel changes the experiences we make.
We move on, led by own resistances. By collecting valuable insights on our way, we grasp who we truly are. Understanding is the first big step towards changing our convictions. The barriers of our formerly unshakeable belief systems begin to fall apart.
We make ourselves conscious that by focusing on the future, we stopped living in the here and now. Our individual actions are directed at future possessions. What we desire to have is not what we are or believe to be. Because of that, now is the right time to revoke old convictions.
When we encounter ourselves – also called reflexion – we can’t evade pain. The truth that we uncover heals us, but it is also painful at times. While we get further and peel off more and more layers we also sometimes face our own resistance to move on with the process. The difference is that we can now handle and face up to this pain without seeking to compensate by doing sport, drugs etc.
It is no rarity that the constant awareness of problems leads to feelings of being trapped. Transformation requires consent. We can only remove the last and most intractable layer when we make the decision to do so. Towards truth instead of illusion.
I am the director of my own life again. I decide what I experience and how I do. Pure being and acting instead of constructing. Change in the structure of my thinking, feeling and acting gives me the ability to just be right here and right now.
Didn’t understand everything? Don’t worry. Sometimes you can’t even understand yourself. But never mind, it’s the same for everyone. That’s the reason you’re here.
Here, looking for answers to many questions about yourself and this model. It is a challenging and exciting process which I like to initiate together with you. I will accompany you until the point where joy is the only truth. Sounds complicated.
I prefer to explain why in a face-to-face meeting.